LISTENING TO INSECURITIES
Our insecurities are always trying to tell us something. Let me explain.
When I reflect on times when I felt the most insecure about parts of my life that I could control (my health, my finances, or my behavior), those are the moments when my mind was telling me something wasn’t right - there needed to be a shift. And I was the only one who could make that shift for myself.
The definition of insecurity is having a lack of confidence or uncertainty in oneself. But what if we stopped viewing the insecurities that we have complete control of as flaws to ignore or cover up, and instead saw them as signals? Signals that something is either out of alignment or that something needs to change.
While we can’t always control the circumstances we were dealt or the people around us, we can control ourselves. We can decide to look at the areas of our life that we are most insecure about and ask ourselves:
Is this in my control to change?
If so, what can I do to make this insecurity subside?
And, for the things we can’t control? While not easy, we always have the opportunity to shift the story in our heads. My mentor always says that the emotions we experience are from the stories we tell ourselves. Ask yourself:
If this insecurity of mine is completely out of my control, how can I change the story in my head?
If this insecurity of mine is completely out of my control, how can I make the most of it to help someone else in their journey of feeling or experiencing the same thing?
Nothing is ever wasted - we can always use our pain as fuel to change ourselves and help someone else.
x LG Curry